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  17. you already know what you are doing, and I’ve already told you everything I can tell you in your past reader mails, so there’s no need to waste my time by restating it. Just know that success doesn’t come over night.
  19. I am big fan of your blog.  I have a question about how to approach the first date.  I tend to use it as a way for getting to know the girl, so I focus on the conversation.  I do this because I am at a stage where I desire something more meaningful than just sex and I want to see whether we are compatible.  I rarely try to amp up the sexual energy during the date (i.e. I make no effort to take her back to my place or angle to stay at her place later on).  However, I make sure that she knows that I am interested in seeing her again.  On average, the conversations are good enough to the point that I am not boring the women.  Friends tell me that I do not lack charisma.
  21. After the majority of these first dates, the women either cut off all communication with me or react very coolly/awkwardly when I call them again.  I typically choose dinner, quiet bars, and coffee shops as first date locations.  What am I doing wrong?  Is my approach giving off vibes of disinterest?
  23. Thanks.
  26. You do realize that you just gave me absolutely no useful information to help you with, right? Something obviously goes wrong on your dates, and they aren’t going as well as you think they are, but what am I suppose to do without any details about your dates?
  28. I just feel so bad for putting him through almost two months of crap. I know I was stlill sorting out my feelings, butt I wish I had the confidence to do it sooner. Most of the time I’m okay, but other times, the guilt just eats me up. Guilt when we were together, guilt now that we’re apart. The hardest part of this all is that I hurt somebody I love and it sucks that I won’t be able to be around them anymore. He’ll want his space and groom the looks of it will want nothing to do with me ever again. I wish I could asked through time to a point where I don’t feel this way anymore. It’s a bummer, but probably not as bad as what he’s going through. So selfish to worry about him hating me when I’m the one who neglected him and broke his heart. He deserved better.
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  31. Mark July 18, 2015 at 9:02 am #
  32. I am a 49yo guy who married someone out of guilt. My wife once told me that “if you leave me I don’t know what I’ll do to myself” So we continued dating and eventually I popped the question. I recall in the days leading up to proposing that I did not want to do it, but felt had to.
  34. It wasn’t as if I didn’t care for her. It’s just that I deserved to date more and perhaps find someone I more deeply connected with, rather than having someone manipulate my feelings in this regard.
  36. Overall my 19 years of marriage have been pretty good and I’m sure we will stay together for the long haul. I am not bitter. It’s just that I rightly feel unfairly guilted into where I am today and wanted to write this to any person perhaps in this predicament to be brave enough to follow what they feel best and not be overrun by another persons feelings

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